Give your kids a life long gift. Teach them how to set goals and have a vision for themselves and their future.
Do you remember how old you were when you were first taught the skill of goal setting? Or perhaps you’re still yet to learn….
Creating a vision and setting goals takes dedication and skill but before we go off on a woo-woo tangent, there’s no person or study that I have come across that will deny the power of having a clear vision. In fact, multiple studies will now prove that a clear, positive vision can have an incredible impact on one’s life so this is a skill we all need to master.
A vision gives you a clear picture of what you want to achieve either personally, as a family or in your business. It’s something that you can use to keep you motivated, on task and pushes you to continue to strive to be better. If a vision is an overall picture, goals are also similar, but the way I work on my goals is that once your goals are set, you then need to get very clear on what needs to be done to achieve them. It’s all well and good that you want to run a half marathon this year but work needs to be done in the meantime to get you to that goal. How often will you need to train? How many km’s will you need to be able to run before the big day?
Just after the new year, I had an idea to do some visioning and goal setting with the kids. I had spent a good week in and out of finalising my own thoughts and moulding what I wanted 2020 to look like and I thought, why not get them involved also.
I called the kids in one by one and I sat with them and showed them what I had been working on. I showed them my personal goals for 2020 as well as my business goals but perhaps what really hit the spot for them was sharing my family goals. This included things like the holiday I wanted to take them on and how I was planning to achieve that. I even broke this down into monetary value and how I was going to save to get us there as I think it’s really important that kids understand the work and planning that goes into our family activities. Family holiday’s don’t just fall off trees right!!
Here are the questions I asked my children:
1: What would you like to do more of or what do you want to achieve this year?
2: Break down areas of life into different sections (I used a wheel as I was inspired by something I read online) and in those sections get clear about what they need to do to achieve those goals i.e. If they want to make the basketball side? How many times a week do THEY think they will need to practice to achieve that goal? It’s very important that this is all guided by them.
3: What parts of themselves do they love?
4: What parts of themselves would they like to improve?
5: What would they do and what would they buy if they had all the money in the world?
A week or so later we all sat at the dinner table and reviewed what we had done and if we were on track to achieving our goals. It was so interesting to see their reactions and responses, especially when they had been self-motivated in the quest to achieve their own goals. We all then contributed to our ‘Family Bucket List’ for 2020. One in all in hey!
I have put our goals up for us all to see. Having a visual as a constant reminder is paramount, especially when working with kids.
We had SO much fun putting all this together. It was so easy, life-changing and free! You can do it with kids of any age and the earlier we plant the seed and instil this mindset in their spongy little heads the better. I believe it gives kids purpose, an element of control when it comes to achieving, a sense of pride in themselves and gratitude towards anyone that is assisting them to achieve what they have set their minds to.
Goal setting and visioning with kids. An easy, positive and free activity we can do with them to set them up for some awesome life habits.
Let me know if you try it! I would love to see some vision boards. Make sure you tag us in.
Editor: Rayne Bryant